Family Treed

by Christine Harapiak | Winner of the 2024 Writing Contest – Poetry

Grampy’s First Memory

It was August and hot and 1908

Dad had been gone for two weeks threshing

Hired out

I knew it

Missed his height in the doorway

Missed his shoes in the porch

And Mom she would stop for a moment

Stepping into the yard

Missing his hand on her waist

I could see that

In her face

I would have been three come winter

A little guy, too short for my age

Hiding behind the house

Rolling my tongue around vowels

Trying to take in the English

Not really sure what it was

I was playing in the yard and Mom in the house

Baking bread I still smell

Cleaning blueberries

Scolding me in Ukrainian

For things I can’t remember

Realizing I wasn’t there

She came to the door and stopped

For a moment

Stepping into the yard

and fell –

one hand stained by blueberries

the black of her hair somehow out of place

against the parched grass

she would never get up

I could see that in her face

Generations

I make it onto my poetry contest daughter’s

longlist.

She tries to temper my expectations

but I am pleased 

and knowing.

I am not a top poet but

everything I write

smells like home

to her.

I read my fingerprints 

all over

her open face.

You make the thousand choices

that is living

and in doing so 

you wire these small bodies

to yours.

They can run

but they will never be free 

of you.

Someday they will weep

in your absence but your 

teenaged grandson won’t cry.

He’ll say

helpfully

“It’s sad but Nana was old

as dirt”

and he won’t understand that

his mother is mourning too

her lost history;

and the very last person

who remembers her small

and fresh to the world

not gaining weight;

set free

with promises to come back

and prove

she could grow –

driving home together

two crazy bunnies determined

to conquer the night.

He will wish one day

that he had cried then

because 

she won’t be there

to hold him

later.

Bees Trapped in Amber 

My parents are bees trapped in amber

wrong place wrong time

struck down by an ancient flow 

oozing from a branch

in the Mesozoic era

or maybe the Pleistocene?

I can’t remember the difference and never paid attention

in that class anyway.

Nose in the pages of book after book after book

still.

My husband turns 60 

and I type that out the next day – his age –

as I sign him up for something

some race against time and mortality –

I type a six then a zero and think

my Dad stopped not long after that

and wonder

is this how you get old?

It’s a catching up and if you are lucky

or driving the right gene truck

a passing of the people who went before.

But all roads end somewhere.

I drive myself to distraction

finding all the people who went before me

not my parents 

(trapped in amber

suspended in space

gone missing in their 60s)

I jump over them.

I read that amber cannot melt

it only burns

and not feeling the need for a fire

I do a flying long jump past them

a record breaking metaphorical long jump.

I send DNA samples to everywhere

telling myself I am solving for the missing equation

that is my great grandfather

broken beyond repair at Passchendaele

and planted in a foreign field reserved

for Canadians.

My rabbit holes lead me to a distant cousin

who keeps a family history of truth

and a family history of omission.

She says my war hero Grandfather did not belong

to them.

This is a truth apparently –

his strong jaw and neatly shaped ears should have been our first clue.

He came in from the cold somehow

adopted

and I let myself wonder from whom? 

Was he the youngest child of his maternal “grandparents”

whose mother fell to the Russian flu when he was 3 months old?

I like this theory

and I build a story around it

shop it around to the family

and the facts stop mattering as much after that.

I keep digging in this bottomless pit of story

and do not stop my quest or question my sources

until I discover eventually

as we all will

I am descended from

the mythical God Odin

because that is what happens

when you cut yourself off from reality –

you become a work of fiction.

And it’s no longer history

and it’s not really art 

and we wander around the planet

insisting all our stories can be true

at once

leaving no ground in common.

I stop digging down with Odin

and start looking up

and see the bees in amber

where I have trapped my parents’ story

and build a small fire

to set them free.